So, about a month and a half ago, an awesome co-worker and I were enjoying lunch and talking about our latest, and most outrageous conquests in the dating world, when she started telling me about what she called her "bible". "He's Just not that Into You". I instantly recognised the title from the movie that came out a few years ago. She told me about how the hilarious writer of this comedic, self-help book, totally opened up her eyes, and how every time she falls into yet another dreary, dead end crush, she thinks of what he'd written. If you've read my blog at all you are well aware of the failure that is my love life recently. So accordingly, I ran strait into the Barnes and Noble next door and bought this book immediately. What did I have to loose, right?
Well, it took me a little while, but I finally finished it. And let me tell you, I think it may have changed my life! Ok, maybe that's slightly dramatic. but I definitely have a whole new perspective on love, dating, and all of the things that I want out of my life and my future man.
Ive recently been the poster girl for desperation. I was single, and hating life. So, if I was already miserable and alone, what was the big deal about wasting my time with these no good guys? I was still miserable, but at least I had some companionship in my misery. After reading this book it all seems so clear. I'm worth more. I'm beautiful and fun and smart. And most important, I'm worth love! And I'm done wasting the pretty...
So Ive made a decision. No more. No more putting up with crap from worthless guys. No more selling myself short and doing things I don't want to do, and putting up with things I don't deserve for the short term relief it can provide. I'm focusing on me. I'm going to do all of the thing I want to do, alone or not. I have so much to offer, and it may not come easy, but I truly believe that my time will come along and all of the things that this man wrote about will be part of my life. I cant wait! No more wasting my time on guys who are just not that into me...
"Even loneliness is better, because with loneliness you at least have hope and possibility and imagination. But being in a situation where you start to feel hurt and small and rejected, even though it may be a nice little break from the tedium of no dates and no stories to tell your friends, will rob you of your new found confidence and self-esteem. And nothing is worth that."
~Liz Tuccillo
~"He's Just Not That Into You"
